To most people in American culture today, the words "spiritual" and
"sex" or "sexuality" don't go together. "Spiritual" is for church;
"sex" is for bed (or the back seat, or the kitchen table, or ...).
How can the highest expression of ourselves be associated with
the lowest? Or, at least, so the Church would have us believe.
Despite the best efforts of the "great man" religions to convince
us that sex is not a good thing, though, anyone who opens her
eyes
The trouble is, many of the modern incarnations of the monotheist
religions
In response to the paragraph above, Mr. Kamal S. wrote this excellent essay on the relationship of Islam to spiritual sexuality, offering Westerners a rare insight into that religion, about which we hear all too little, especially in this post-9/11 era.
Many of the older, earthier religions, however, explicitly celebrate
the sacredness of sexuality. Most people have heard of Tantra, the
spiritual sexuality path within Hinduism and Bhuddism; but there are
others
Spirit is that sacred part of us that is most deeply us, and sexuality goes to core of that. Our bodies are not separate from our spirits; rather, they are instantiations of our spirits, "the spirit made flesh" as one current religion puts it. Our spirit lives in our lower three chakras, those defining our survival, our needs, and our wants. That spirit expresses itself through the next three chakras, with love, communication, and vision. Finally, the spirit relates to the Divine through the seventh, the crown, chakra. Our sexuality, too, finds its home in our lower three chakras, expresses itself through our next three chakras, and grants us those moments of transcendence through our crown chakra.
Sex is one of the main ways we who inhabit bodies have of connection and communication. There is, of course, the physical connection that happens when two or more people enter a sexual experience; but there is also a spiritual connection that, despite everything that organized religions have done to suppress it, makes itself abundantly clear to those who still have the ability to feel.
Sex offers us communion with those we love, at both the physical
and the spiritual levels. Physically, it offers shared joy and
playful times together, both of which are necessary for the growth
and even the survival of love. The gift of ecstasy is one of the
most precious gifts we can give
In a real sense, though, the interconnectedness between sexuality
and spirituality cannot be understood by just reading and studying;
we must experience it in order to truly comprehend
it. Each time we experience true spiritual sexuality, our
comprehension grows deeper, and our understanding more certain, that
this is the way we are "wired"
But why are we discussing spiritual sexuality in relation to Paganism? The beginnings of the answer lie in the fact that even though most neo-Pagan paths today do not accept sexual expression as a part of their rituals (other than in symbolic form), still it is a part of our cultural heritage as Pagans.